its like the way she words things its like

Co-worker #1: I just found out an old friend of mine is gay, I’ve known him for 10 years and he’s been in a relationship all that time. And he’s in an official relationship with his… well, I don’t want to say boyfriend cause…
Co-worker #2: why? Cause he’s not the man in the relationship?
Co-worker #1: well he’s a bit on the feminine side so…
Me: ?????????????????
Co-worker #3: actually there’s no such thing as a man and a woman in a gay relationship.
Me: !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Co-worker #3: it’s called active and passive.
Me: ………………
Co-worker #2: what does that mean?
Co-worker #3: you know, the one that gives it and the one that takes it.
Me: it’s a fucking ride listening to you lot, jesus christ.