Fucked up how women are expected to preform femininity to such an unreasonable, expensive and time consuming degree right now. Obviously thatâs been an aspect of patriarchy forever but theres a late capitalist spin on it in our current period thatâs just so extreme and unrealistic.. I feel like this is something people donât see as getting worse but in, say, the 70s it was totally normal for women to go outside without foundation on. The degree to which women are expected to compete with other women in the amount of money and unpaid time they spend on their appearance every day has accelerated along with the acceleration and of global capitalism in general
Thereâs a massive feminist movement erupting in South Korea right now where women are posting pictures of their destroyed makeup collections in protest of the massive amounts of sacrifice theyâre expected to make towards conventional beauty just to be employed or viewed as normal. I know liberals like to talk about this stuff being a choice but when thousands of people are saying that it ISNâT a choice for them, and is in fact something they feel cornered into thatâs actively harming them, thatâs something worth listening to
i agree that jameela makes great points at times, but sheâs also the same woman who thinks the likes of laverne cox are women just because they identify that way. you canât be a woman who calls out the deep-seated misogyny of society while also saying that any male who âfeelsâ like a woman is one, and his opinions on womanhood automatically become relevant.
I hope you and all TERFs shit your pants in public too.
buddy her thinking trans women are women is a bonus not a flawÂ
Tessa Thompson & Lakeith Stanfield (âSorry to Bother Youâ) for GQ
âThere are so many movies with people of color coming out that are like, âItâs the people-of-color version of a heist movie!â Or, âItâs the people-of-color version of a buddy-cop thing!â You know, ‘People of color in this romantic comedy instead of Jennifer Anistonâ or whatever.â [Director Boots] Rileyâs representation doesnât mean just slotting people of color into roles âthey wouldnât have gotten originallyâ (read: white), it means creating roles we havenât seen before: âThis is a new movement of art for people of color that has to do with not only people being represented on screen and behind the screen, but a new way of thinking about the creation of art. [Stanfield and Thompson] are two of the prominent members of this kind of new group of actors that are coming up.â
i donât want to achieve equality by sinking to menâs level, i want them to get on ours! why should i have to unlearn the conversational art of waiting my turn, unlearn sexual self-restraint, unlearn trust in othersâ good intentions, unlearn the impulse to cater to othersâ needs, just to have a chance at success among savages? why canât the men learn some fucking manners so we can all conduct our affairs in a civilized manner? i shouldnât have to stop saying sorry, you say sorry!
In the 80s when I was in my freshman year in college, they still had entirely separate mens and womenâs dorms. I was in class waiting for a final to start and one of the guys was telling someone about how he had had to go into a womenâs dorm to drop something off, and he was startled to see posters on the walls, flowers, curtains, etc. He said his menâs dorm had holes in the walls, things on fire, fights, guys walking around with open wounds and he just didnât understand why they had to live like this. He said, âI want to live with the women, in civilization.â
Am reading Sisterhood of Spies, about women working for the OSS during WWII. One of the stories mentions that the women in London had a male visitor who would eat in their mess hall once a month. He was married and wasnât interested in hitting on any of the women; he just wanted to eat in an atmosphere where people said âPlease pass the butter,â instead of âPASS THE GODDAMNED GREASEâ
I dated a guy who brought me along on group activities (movies, video game night, etc.) with four or five other male friends. Once I mentioned to one of the other guys that I hoped I wasnât intruding on their âguy timeâ or some such. He got this sort of rueful look and said, âThe truth is, I really like it when youâre here because it gives us a reason to act better. When itâs just guys, we all have to try to outdo each other with how vile we are.â
So the moral of these stories are men donât even treat each other like human beings.
If heâs a hopeless husband, she will always make him dinner and never suggest that he look after his own children. If he doesnt understand where the line is when it comes to harassing women, whatâs friendly and whatâs creepy, then sheâll give him the benefit of the doubt when he harasses or assaults. If he messes up simple tasks like washing his clothes and cleaning the house enough, she will take over out of exhaustion. If he states that he doesnt understand her feelings often enough, sheâll stop asking him to consider them.
Men play stupid because theyâre lazy and entitled. They know they cant be blamed for their own supposed lack of understanding. Stop calling them clueless, helpless and stupid and start calling them manipulative.
Also the wives/gfs in this scenario have to find the magical right communication style. If she tells him to put the leftovers in an appropriately-sized Tupperware, sheâs a nag or a control freak. If she asks him to clean up after dinner, then, oops, he just didnât know. How could a grown adult know any better than to put two oz. of leftovers in a 2 quart container? Repeat for grown adults who didnât know that laundry bleach isnât laundry soap, that plants need an appropriate amount of water, etc. and the nagging-wife archetype starts to seem more like a reasonable-human one.
Iâm infuriated by the learned helplessness of men in responsible careers, who apply reason and problem solving just fine outside the kitchen.
this was some moment. when he starts listing all the women in his life you just know that heâs gonna follow that up with literal shit pouring out of his mouth
Pass Through Fire 